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Can An Ex Come Back After Months or Years?

People have a need to “recycle” people from their past. What to do if your ex comes back after a few months, and what if they contact you after a few years.

Man and woman holding hands and come back after years

They reached out in the first two months after the breakup

This is where things diverge, because we don’t know what kind of partner we’re dealing with. With whom we are dealing, we can check this according to their typical behavior (they has frivolous relationships, is difficult to bond, etc.)

There are two types of partners: those who want a serious relationship and those who do not want a serious relationship.

Those who want a serious relationship:

If they call in the first two months, it means that they made the decision to terminate hastily and changed their mind.

  • You don’t need to be angry, but in that case, you need to change the way you are connected and your relationship as a whole.
  • Here, you can also ask for compensation for what they did to you. A trip or an expensive gift.
  • The bottom line is that you can’t get back into this relationship too quickly. It is necessary to punish your partner by waiting for the relationship so that they remember what will happen the next time they do something like this.
  • In that case this is a good post to read. It explains how to manage this period to make your relationship work.
A beautiful woman sitting and thinking can an ex come back after years

Those who do not want a serious relationship:

If you get back with your partner after two months, there’s an 85% chance of losing them again.

Ex come back between two and six months after the breakup

They really tried to separate themselves from you. The reasons can be different:

  • That person can have attachment problems
  • They may experience some disappointments.
  • Nothing new and exciting may happen to them.
  • They tried a relationship with someone, and it didn’t work out.
  • They became curious because they saw that you had changed something in your life
Man and woman on date

In this case, be more careful with that person. If their reasons are that they have attachment problems, you must not forget that you have such a person with you, and they can do the same thing countless times.

If, on the other hand, their reasons are that they declared you a not-so-good opportunity and went to investigate what is better than you, it means that they came back because:

Note: If they tried a relationship with someone and it didn’t work out, take care that they didn’t just come to you for ego healing. It might not be a bad idea to read this text.

If you attempt to reconnect with your ex-partner after less than five months, there’s a 40% chance of having a good, different relationship. Chances are higher that the relationship won’t work because you haven’t changed.

And I’m not saying that because I’m telling you to adapt to that person. That’s one part. But primarily, you should change so that you can manage that relationship in a different way.

They came back between six months and a year

Man and woman are sitting

Trust me: they had something going on in their love lives, and it probably failed.

  • Of course, the other solution is that they had some personal problems of their own that they had to deal with… but be careful with this. That it’s not just a story for you.

Any way, and unfortunately, this means that they probably come back to check, as I keep saying, that you have changed and that you are comforting them. This is not a good sign, unless you apply good tactics.

However, there are a few rules we must first meet before we consider getting back into that relationship.

  • You need to find out what happened in that person’s life.
  • You need to find out when it failed.
  • If it has failed in the last three months, get the hell out of there. Your ex is still contemplating something.
  • If you don’t want to move away, my recommendation is to just hang out with that ex of yours. Your attention to him or her can only represent the healing of the ego, and after you heal them – they will leave you again because, remember: they are not there for you and your beauty, but for themselves.
  • After that period of companionship, which will not be a huge friendship but only occasional companionship and contact, then begin the return program.

7 reasons why people who rejected you come back

The ex came back after year(s).

Can ex come back

This actually has the greatest potential for building a genuine connection because both partners have changed.

If it’s been a year since you broke up:

  • Start your relationship as friends and push that friendship for a long time.
  • Don’t become anything else until you determine who that person is.
  • Be a good friend, be fun, and be supportive of that person.
  • You’re putting the brakes on getting back into that relationship, even if the person wants you to try again.
  • Before getting into a relationship, agree on the rules for getting back together.
  • I warn you that it is best to commit permanently (marriage, moving in together, engagement). Anything else can be unstable and another waste of time with the same person.

If it’s been many years since your breakup:

Long distance relationship

You never know what’s happening in their life, and it might work in your favor (maybe they’ve separated from someone and need a new partner; maybe someone new hasn’t appeared in their life; maybe they had their reasons, like embarrassment, for not reaching out, so your contact might be welcome).

  • You can contact that person as well.
  • If a person broke up with you, I suggest you not be the first to contact them for two years. After that, you can.
  • Here, you can also get into a relationship right away.
  • It goes without saying that you first checked who that person is today and what their plans are for the future.

I hope you find this article useful. Dee.

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